what is love? i believe love can be defined as unconditional acecptant of the person as hu they are. why do i say this? because how can there be love if there is no accecptance in the first place? but why unconditional accenptant of HU THEY ARE? because simply, if u do not love them as they are, u are comparing, imagining hu the person CAN be, and then be in love with that IMMAGE, not in love with the PERSON.
so what does this mean? when we say we love someone... do we really mean it? are we just saying that for the sake of saying it? or just a term used to manipulate the person?
so there is difference between love and infectuation. infactuation is basically just an attraction that u have towards someone else... it might be cos s/he is good looking, or something the person did.. or just that s/he is just soooo sweet... but this is just temp.
love on the other hand can only be achived when we really get to noe someone... to see the person in his or her best and worst time... so see past the facard that the person carries... to look into the soul and not just the face. to be able to understand why the person acts or behaves in the way he or she does... and to see the true beauty or the person... not just the physical sence... but to see the true self that many of us hide... to apreaciate it... both the good and the bad... to be able to be thankful for the good... and to try to understand the darker side of the person... not condeming the person because of it.. but to accecpt it as part of the person... to care for the person dispite of it... to support the person as s/he battles it... to stand as support for the person.. to be there for the person to cry on.. and to have cried on the person before.
so why do we need love? why do so many people despreatly seek it? even if they have to look for it in all the wrong places?
non of us are perfect. we all know it. there are always parts of us that we are nv secure or confident about. parts of us that we want to hide... thus leading us to put on a facard. yet... all of us want some1 to look at us.. tell us that we are beautiful, and to mean it! to look at the little things we do... the little of good that we do that no one seems to notice... and to thank us for it. to look at the parts of us that we dont want any1 to see... and after seeing it... instead of turning away in disgust. to turn around to us.. to stare at us in the eye.. and to turn round to us... give us a hug... and to tell us that they still acept us.. not that we accecpt our failurs.. but accecpt us dispite our failaurs.
notice how many people with disfuntional families oftent look for love in other places? why is this so? because we humans NEED love. reserch shows that babies need to be touch and huged... those that are not... most die... this shows that all though we think all we need to survive is food, water and air... this is wrong.. with out love... we will die.
when one is unable to find love within a family.. when a family is not a home but a house... the person has a deep void within oneself. and then tries to find ways to fill that void. oftnet in the desperation to fill this void... wrong methods are used.. and the result is that the person comes out more hurt in the end...
so why am i writing this? oh well... some reasons behind it... led to this insperation...
till later
